Let's Talk That Real

Love is eternal. I'm going to say that one more time: Love is Eternal. Lust is fleeting. You can't "fall in love". You can't say, "I used to love him". Love is Eternal. In today's society a large percentage of the population practice "friends with benefits", "side-chicks", "mistresses", and a whole lot of other counterfeit love practices. Now, I am not suggesting that people just started cheating recently. What I am saying is that honest, integrity-filled love with the intentions to make forever and weather every storm is rare. Two people creating a child in love together for the first time is also rare. Now, I realize with great respect there are a lot of blended families out there that are happy and healthy and perfect together. However, we all know that what is going on out there is largely due to a fear of commitment. The goal for most used to be finding Mr. or Mrs. Right and settling down and living happily every after. While I do not believe that it is possible to promise someone forever, I do believe if two people give their full 100 percent in the effort department forever is possible. Love is kind, yes. Love is patient, yes. Love also involves crazy spells, intense anger, moodiness of one or both partners, dirty diapers, sinks full of dishes and choosing the wrong apartment that turns out to be a deathtrap. Laugh, please. But seriously, we all have "ish". Not one of us can stand and say that we are perfect and it actually be true. We all have shit to work through. Human nature tends to judge. It tends to assume. It tends to fear the worst and hope for the best but most often the fear ends up winning. Some of us gamble. Some of us cheat. Some of us lie. Some of us have substance abuse issues, and some of us are over-emotional. We all have layers to our personas. We all are complex beings in need of love and affection. However, the more times we are hurt, well, the harder it becomes to trust. The harder it become to let down our guard and love fully. The old saying "love like you've never been hurt" really is the winning algorithm. Now, I am by no means endorsing cocaine use, or abuse of your spouse (male & female alike). I am not endorsing gambling away your family's operating fund. What I am saying is that if we love like we've never been hurt; trust like we won't get hurt this time; if we offer our full potential to someone also offering their full potential then forever love really can come to fruition. This is my position. We used to forgive. We used to realize that we all have something that most people do not know about us. The problem is that society at large gave up on weathering the storm. Now, most people are hedonist. They search for as much pleasure as they can have this lifetime. They drink as much as they can handle and sometimes more. Work is a chore not a passionate trade that they feel called and compelled to answer. Honesty, integrity, loyalty, and a strong work ethic have become old fashioned values of yesteryear to many, if not most. We give up so easily. We as human beings, have gotten lazy to a very extensive degree. Now, I applaud those of you who are the small handful left that this does not apply to. Keep up the good work. Inspire others and spread the word. We all have darkness to face. Real love is holding someone through their darkness; loving them regardless and building a future that is the realization of love's unified exponential potential. Our children are our future. Imagine if they were all raised in homes such as these. Love is eternal. Love is eternal. Love is eternal.